She Made Her Mark

I am very pleased with my progress at the gym, I have lost a bit of weight and I feel full of energy and with my eyes firmly fixed on the prize of a slim, trim middle aged man with a flat stomach. In the same way my twin made progress through life swiftly but with great impact.

In her family life she was blessed, at work she was acknowledged and in her professional circles was celebrated. But above all she progressed spiritually to a maturity of immense proportions and today she dwells permanently in His presence. It was not always so.

I can recall that when I made my commitment to Jesus Christ as a 12 year old boy at King's College, Lagos, I wrote to my twin at Federal Government College Oyo but she was simply not ready at the stage. It was later in her working life that she took the decision and never looked back. She was always more thorough than I was and once she made a decision she was unshakable in it.

In her life she respected all but was no walk over, she said it as she saw it and did not tolerate sloppiness, she was very kind and indulged regularly in lots of sacrificial giving and acts of kindness.

Some were surprised when the decision was made to lay her remains to rest in the UK, Maidstone to be precise but with the hundreds of friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family that came from abroad for the farewell service, it was a testament to her impact and a comfort to her family.

It was right in the grey limousine, one of the vehicles provided by the funeral directors, ferrying my wife, children, uncle, brother and his family, on the way to the service, that I decided I would act as a pall bearer to the coffin carrying her remains into the church, my brother, brother in law (not her husband) and friends of her husband joined me in this last but honourable act.

I felt that I owed her memory that, also that it would help me accept my deep and personal loss; It was the hardest journey I have ever taken, the most difficult task I have ever undertaken, but God gave us strength to do it and am content I did it because she made her mark and we will never forget that.